Finding love can be a daunting task for many. There is much at stake when we decide to step out and bare ourselves in hopes that we will attract the one. Well it’s time to take the guess work out of attracting a mate and leave you with nothing but the facts. When we are truly ready to be with someone we should already have a great understanding of who we are and an understanding of the version of self we are aspiring too. This is important to identify prior to stepping out, anyone who does not fit the “where we are striving to be” should not be one who we commit too. Instead take the time first to acknowledge these truths for yourselves and commit to a healthier self image.
Be your authentic self. This is where the juice is your secret sauce. In a world full of copy cats your signature becomes the cute, weird, quirky, nerdy, smart etc. attributes that people gravitate to. No one wants to be in a relationship with someone who is not being themselves. Ingenuous energy cannot be hidden and is an active repellant.
Engage the person in conversation and leave no stone unturned. This is not an investigation but a cool meeting of the minds. Knowing how the other thinks and handles different situations is key in relating to each other on a consistent basis.
Be ready to express what you are needing and if you are unsure like many are that is okay as well. However communication in the in-between moments help relieve the spouse of unnecessary pressure. It is not their job to make you happy. Only you can do that for yourself.
A simply plan for you to follow as you venture back into the world as she opens to greet you. Be authentic, engage, express yourself in this new age. There is not time to waste sitting on the sidelines waiting. These last couple of years should have taught all of us to go and live. When you meet that special person you both will sit at the table as whole individuals ready to give 100% each to the growing union.
Love is what we make it. For many of us a healthy marriage is the goal so how it begins tells the story of how it may end. When we love ourselves that sends out a signal drawing to us everything we need. Stay in love and in touch to self. Tell us your love story can’t wait to hear.
Shatrese Williams is a freelance writer, who showcases on her platform her love for travel and culture. As a visionary, she desires to join every reader in a cultural experience. It is her way to inspire others to see the world through relationships. Holding a B.S. of Psychology, Yale certification in The Science of Well Being and personal experience has helped in understanding people as she globe-trots the world. Now a published author she dives deeper into the Psychology necessary to live life abundantly limitless. She enjoys tea in the morning, a well-designed luxurious spa bath, and endless ocean views. Her work can be found at various book stores and online publications.